The night before undergoing emergency surgery, I was lying in a hospital bed surrounded by beeping machines and the constant interruptions of nurses and doctors. My husband was sitting next to me, his eyes narrowed with concern and worry. When the last nurse closed the door behind her, with a kind “I’ll be at the desk if you need me”, I turned to my husband.
“No matter what happens tomorrow,” I said to him, “Everything is going to be okay. We have a plan for this.” He nodded his head and closed his eyes. I saw the weight of the worry ease from his shoulders just a little, and it was invaluable. It was just that little bit of reassurance, a gentle reminder that we had both needed.
We had already had the ‘what if’ conversation; he knew what my wishes were for my healthcare if I wasn’t able to make decisions for myself, and financial arrangements were in place, if they were needed. Just navigating that awful emergency situation was all we needed to deal with, in the moment, for the moment.
To Have an Estate Plan is to Have Peace of Mind
Thankfully, the surgery was a success. No further intervention was needed; neither were our backup plans. But the fact that they had been there had given us so much peace of mind. And it wasn’t just on that dreadful night before the surgery. I have had a sense of peace ever since.
It’s often difficult to confront and to hypothesize about, but if my husband or I were to be given a diagnosis of a terminal illness, that would be hard enough for my children to deal with. I want to know at that stage that I have done all I can possibly do to secure their future life without me. Read More.